No matter the circumstances or reasons for deciding to get divorced, the children will not be unaffected by their parents separating and the divorce process so if you can you should look for a marriage therapist in Reno. However, every child may react very differently to the changes and some may even need some help to cope emotionally and psychologically and you may have a need for a Reno child psychologist.
But how can you tell if your child is reacting “normally” or if they are showing signs that they may need therapy?
Some normal or acceptable behavioral changes may include:
– Crying, temper tantrums and mood swings.
– A sudden drop in school grades.
– Trouble sleeping or increased fatigue or tiredness.
– Changes in appetite. This could be lack of appetite or an increase in eating.
– Avoiding converstion or the silent treatment.
– Withdrawal from social interactions with friends and family members.
– Rudeness and disrespect.
– Mild separation anxiety.
These signs and behavioral problems should dissipate on their own as the kids adjust to their new living and other arrangements. However, if these behaviors do not go away or intensify, it is a sign that therapy may be necessary.
Therapy should be sought should the following more serious behavioral symptoms appear after a divorce:
– Extreme separation anxiety.
– Dissociative identity disorder.
– Weight loss or weight gain.
– Constant lethargy or insomnia (sleeplessness).
– Total withdrawal from friends, family, hobbies and activities.
– Trouble focusing or concentrating.
– Decreased self esteem and lack of confidence.
– Obsessive compulsive behaviors.
– Entering into risky behaviors.
– Substance (drugs or alcohol) use or abuse.
– Self harm.
– Becoming preoccupied with death.
Just one of these signs could be evidence that a child is not coping with the divorce and it is essential to get help sooner rather than later. These symptoms are unlikely to go away on their own and are likely to get worse without intervention and therapy. Avoiding treatment can result in a serious mental disorder developing such as depression, anxiety disorder or obsessive compulsive disorder later on in life.
If a child or teenager starts speaking about dying or no longer wanting to continue living, it is absolutely crucial to seek therapy immediately. While most parents believe that talk of suicide is just a cry for attention, it is not worth the risk to leave the problem untreated. Do not consider whether the talk is “real” or not and rather seek help immediately. Keep in mind that even if it is just a cry for attention, it is a sign that therapy may be needed.
Of course the signs and symptoms that a child may need therapy after a divorce should be relative to age and the therapy should therefore also be age appropriate. For example, a toddler or young child may express their difficulty coping with separation anxiety whereas a teenager may become withdrawn and depressed.
If you are in any doubt as to whether your kids need therapy during or after a divorce, it is best to make an appointment with a therapist to have them assessed. A therapist has the expertise and experience to identify signs that a child may not be coping appropriately with the divorce.